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Becoming a "Mompreneur" or starting a "home based business" seems to be all the rage these days. And, I think for good reason. With all that's been happening in 2020, many of us have been forced to work from home and subsequently, have seen how that may (or may not) be beneficial (or not!) for our personality. [If I can just pause here real quick and explain that I don't really like the term "mompreneur", that'd be great:
So, here's the thing. I don't really enjoy terms like "Mom Boss" or "Mompreneur" because I don't believe I need a qualifier to explain what kind of a boss I am. Like, a man who is also a dad does not call himself a "Dadpreneur" or "Dad Boss" (unless I'm missing something...) Yes, I am a boss. A bada$$ one. Whether I work from home, work out of the home or simply manage the entire household (which could be a full-time job by itself mmmmmkaaayyyyyy). I'm also a mom. I don't believe that being a "mom" needs to be the only thing that defines me from now on and permeate into every other aspect of my life. Am I then a "Mom Friend", a "Mom Colleague", a "Mom Daughter", a "Mom Sister" (???) No. The answer is no. So, Mom Boss and Mompreneur are not my favourite terms - HOWEVER, they are kinda accurate descriptors for the purpose of explaining WHO I'm speaking to. I want to speak directly to female-identifying bosses who have kids. So while I don't like the term, you can't beat the accuracy of explaining my ideal client. Know what I mean?] Okay, back to regularly scheduled programming. I worked in the corporate fitness industry for 15 years, which was basically my entire working career after University right up until March 2019 when I decided to leave the role and the company. I'm not going to give you all the details of my journey to leaving corporate (maybe another time) but I want to share with you three reasons I decided to take the leap and leave a safe and secure role with a large company, to become my own boss. 3 Reasons I Quit My Corporate Job And Became a Mompreneur 1. I no longer felt aligned with the company's values Now, listen. I get it. Just because your "values" don't align with a company any longer, doesn't mean you can just up and leave because... bills. You will absolutely not always align with the company you work for about everything. But, I DID align with their values in the past. It just became very clear that they were changing and that, to be honest, the values they declared they aligned with were not upheld as changes happened. And I didn't jive with that. Nearly every change the company made, I disagreed with. It was very hard to be on board as a leader and convey the changes top-down when I didn't agree with them. I'd had to do that before, throughout my career with the company, but it was few and far in-between. In the past, it was very rare that I had to present a change to my team that I didn't agree with. So when it suddenly became clear that I didn't agree with basically everything I had to communicate... my demeanour drastically changed. I started carrying a negative and sarcastic attitude with me everywhere I went. I used my colleagues as therapists and vented about every dumb thing I didn't like on a weekly basis. I talked sh*t about the leaders that were making the decisions. I was like, THE poster child for "misery loves company" and tried to drag down anyone else's company perspective and make them join my side. I became a person I did not recognize. This was (/is) NOT me. I was a believer in the company since I was hired out of college. A "kool-aid" drinker, you might say. To be the one who was spreading negativity was NOT something I wanted to participate in. So I knew it was time to decide... can I change my attitude or should I bow out? The things that happened to make me feel this way don't matter; but I was out of integrity with MYSELF. It was impacting my behaviour and how I was operating as a human - in such a distinctly different way than I operate by default. I am a positive, optimistic person and I had become negative and pessimistic and probably the worst part is that I was determined to get others to see what I saw, so my negativity spread with every interaction I had. Regardless of the company decisions, that cannot happen.
I used to complain about people with attitudes like this. And now I was one of them? *submits resignation* For real though, if your job is compromising WHO YOU ARE to your core as a human being; changing your behaviour and making you a negative and pessimistic shell of the person you used to be... it may be time to re-think your relationship. This point probably should be the last one, as it was the last straw from a logical standpoint that made me actually leave my job. But I feel it's the most important one. Compromising my own mental health and who I was as a person was not worth it to me. 2. I was building something While I was working my 9-5, I was side-hustling. (For the record, I also don't really like that term, but it explains itself well. Side-hustling, moonlighting, whatever.) I started my foray into online "business" in 2015 when I started my blog. I wasn't generating any revenue at that time, but I was getting consistent with: content creation and showing up online. I would do this typically after my workday and after bedtime. Like, we're talking 1-2 hours per night if I could manage it. And, posting to social media during the day when I could. Content creation* (blogs, newsletters, social media posts, groups, podcasts, YouTube videos, etc.) and showing up online* (on social media, video presence, FB or IG lives with others in similar industries...with consistency) are the first two pillars you need to begin building an audience. *Clarification: pick ONE area of content creation and ONE place to show up online first. Don't try to do ALL the things I suggested at once. Example: start an Instagram Profile, start writing posts, and show up in your stories on a regular basis. Or start blogging and pinning your blogs to Pinterest regularly and go live on Facebook to give people tips on a weekly basis. Start small but be consistent. (If you're currently in a 9-5 and have aspirations to leave that for a "work at home mom" life, you're gonna need to plant some seeds now. It doesn't have to take you four years to leave, but if you do want to leave, you need to begin working on your exit strategy like, yesterday.) I had decided who I was speaking to and I knew what I wanted to offer her. Who are you speaking to and what can you offer? What is your area of expertise? What skills can you package and sell? (Yes, sell. You will serve your audience with things that are helpful to them and also COST MONEY because you're building a business and you are absolutely worth charging for your work.) You will have a much harder time quitting your corporate job if you have nothing to bounce into. Start building your net now. Make a plan. Show up regularly and create in the pockets of time you have. (Lunch break? On the train home? After bedtime? Saturday nights?) That's how I was able to confidently put in my resignation. I had a net started. 3. I started learning about what was possible When you live in the field of predictability**, you think what you know is what you know and that's it. You grow up, maybe you go to college, you get a job at some point, ideally you get a job that has a salary and some regular hours, and you know you're taking home X amount each month. Monetary consistency is like safety crack for humans. A safe, regular salary is one of the most traditional things people crave in life. I was relatively happy making about $3000 a month. I was relatively happy with a $50-60k salary. This was what I was supposed to do, right? Get a decent job. Clock your hours. Trade time for money. Buy things like a house and a car. Get married. Then have a baby and hopefully the job is congruent with returning to work and managing daycare (the scheduling and the costs) so that I can continue working. Realize daycare is basically half your salary per month. Wonder if it's really worth it to continue your career if you're nearly breaking even with expenses and daycare and you hardly ever see you child. This is the path a lot of women go on as they reach adulthood. (Not all, but a lot.) And, you are often questioned, judged or shamed if you do anything off this beaten path. (You don't want kids? *Gasp!* You are starting your own business? *Gasp!* You are happy being single!?!?!? *GASP!!!* So, living in my predictable bubble was safe and comfy. Until I realized there are other bubbles. There is possibility**. And there is potentiality**. (**The fields of "predictability", "possibility", and "potentiality" are taken from one of my business coaches Melanie Anne Layer / Alpha Femme. I did not create these terms, please check out Melanie's Facebook Group if you want to learn more about this kind of insight!) While in my predictable bubble, my life became like our brain's reticular activating system (RAS). If you aren't sure what that means, it's the system your brain uses to mediate behaviour and regulate control systems (like your waking movements/systems; breathing, blinking, etc.) But the RAS also likes to keep you safe by finding evidence that whatever you're doing is the way you're supposed to do it. The correct way. The RAS is responsible for noticing things like, when you buy a new Jeep and then start suddenly seeing Jeeps everywhere. You get pregnant and suddenly start noticing every pregnant woman ever. Your brain naturally looks for things that will reinforce that whatever you did is accurate, correct, safe. My life became a series of seeing what others in the same role were doing, and emulating it in my own life. Looking at those who worked in my company and aspiring to be like them. (There's more to this, of course, but I'll share that in another post.) Thinking the only way was to pursue moving up the ranks of this company because that's what everybody else seemed to do. [If you live in society's idea of "supposed to"... then] you know how you think people make "strange" or "weird" decisions, like randomly moving across the country, deciding not to buy a house and instead renovate a van and live in it for who-knows-how-long, pursuing an unconventional job like building a network marketing empire or starting a life coaching business... How our default reaction to someone our age who isn't having kids, getting married, or finishing school... That's because your RAS wants to find evidence that what YOU'RE DOING is the correct way. People who do things different are triggers for you. Default mode says: they're weird. I want you to consider them as not triggers, but E X P A N D E R S. Example: You catch wind that someone you know, who is running an "unconventional" online business, has just made $10,000 in a month. A SINGLE month. This example is not a hypothetical. The first time I experienced an expander in my life it was learning this. $10,000 in one month. It takes me nearly 4 months to make that. HOW THE F DOES SOMEONE MAKE THAT MUCH IN A MONTH. Then, I started witnessing more entrepreneurs making more non-sensical amounts of monthly income. $16,000 in a month. $20,000 in a month. $46,000 in a month. $80,000 in a month. $100,000 in a month. WHAT THE F*CK. When something seems impossible and unreal and you write it off as something "I could never do" - pay attention. It's probably a trigger for you. These were real women and some of them were coaches who I had bought coaching programs from. I remember seeing that a 3 month group coaching program I wanted to take was $6000. FOR ONE PERSON. And she was getting 30 students into her program. Holy 💩. Suddenly, I became aware of the field of potentiality. (I didn't know it then, I just kept watching in awe wondering how on earth they were managing to make that much money.) If I hadn't come across real-life expanders in my life, chances are I'd be sitting in my job thinking that was the correct, safe path for me and why bother disrupting that normalcy? But then I would have never realized... I can create wealth for myself too. I don't have to stay on the beaten path. I can become an expert and build programs and products that people will pay for. It isn't just something "they" do. It can be something I do too. So? Look around for some expanders and start absorbing their energy. Set some big-a$$ goals while you're at it. When you set your intention on something and declare it, the universe is better apt to help you get it. Trust me. So, that's it for now. Recap: 3 Reasons I Quit My Corporate Job And Became a Mompreneur: 1. I no longer felt aligned with the company's values 2. I was building something 3. I started learning about what was possible I hope you enjoyed this! 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